Have you ever heard of Joyce Meyers? I recently was watching her on television. She is a great inspirational speaker who is a minister.
Basically what she says is that you have to make the decision to take control of your life. If you want to be debt free then you have to make the decision to be debt-free.
I remember hearing something that Anthony Robbins said and it was that when he and his wife were poor and facing bankruptcy he decided then and there not to be poor any more!
One of the first things that you are going to have to do is to realize that you matter. You wouldn't be on this earth if you didn't matter!
Nobody here knows the depths of your debt but there are always things that can be worked on. But you really have to start with yourself first!